Radically falling in love: Self-Love, Self-Care, and Self-Pleasure

Falling in love and unfolding in the whole self has been a lifelong journey, and as I navigate my late 50s, I’m continuously in awe of the depth that this process reveals. There’s an innate wisdom that activates in the skin, the mind, and the spirit as we grow older, especially when we begin to peel back the layers of conditioning, like embedded guilt and shame. Lifes’ stages bring forth different qualities, and each one invites us to meet ourselves anew.

I remember being 20 years old and pregnant, unsure and totally insecure as to how I would ever be ready to be a mother. I didn’t know what I was doing with my own life, let alone to care for another.  But, shazam, as if by some magic, my body/mind shifted, potent chemistry took place, activations within the system unfolded  and a maturation in motherhood emerged. It wasn't to say perfection in being a mother, but this miraculous process gave the capacity to give motherhood a  good crack.  There were certain qualities that awoke in this mosh of chemistry and awareness.  The same can be said of menopause and any major transitions that move us into different phases  of life. I have discovered there are specific activations that come alive in the skin of a woman in these pivotal processes- a womb magic, if you will. The experience that unfolds is something that when we approach ourselves with curiosity and awareness, we allow conditioned patterns to fall away and new pathways to emerge, the new, spontaneous and authentic expression can show itself. Unique to the vessel called you. 

Yet, for so long, ageing in the Women's sleeve has had a bad rap. We’ve masked our menstrual cycles with drugs, ignored the blessing of bleeding, disconnected from the transformative process of menopause, while neglecting  the potential wisdom that resides within these experiences. I spent decades hating how I looked and acted—too wrinkly, too fat, too loud. My body never seemed to fit the mould I believed I was supposed to fit. It was always too much or not enough. This mindset of lack, fueled by a fear of my own power, conditioned me to reject the essential beauty that lay within us all.

But now, I’m discovering the power of my own juices, my own flow—an embodied wisdom that ignites from truly embracing every aspect of myself, the good, the bad, the ugly. The more I get real with this crackin vessel I call Marie Louise, the more I realise the capacity for joy, creativity, and vibrancy is something that can be cultivated. This is the gift of exploring self-love and self-care, initiated through self-pleasure. And it’s a gift that can awaken at any age, but in my view, gets better with age, especially when we’re willing to explore it with open eyes and an open heart.

As women, our bodies are vessels of creation, not just biologically, but in every sense of the word. Our wombs hold immense creative potential, yet we’re taught to reject, hide, and disconnect from them. We’re conditioned to see bleeding as gross, our tummies as unattractive, and our vaginas as something that must be "fixed"  or reshaped to fit an ideal. The manifestation of illness in the sexual organs shows the momentum of such imbalance within the collective. But what if we reframe these beliefs? What if, instead of annihilating our bodies with judgement, distaste and criticism, we learn to honour them as divine in process and radically fall in love? 

For me, the process of age and the pathway through menopause has been a time of profound awakening. It has required me to get raw and real with myself, to let go of opinions, self-abuse, and to embrace radical self-love. It’s been a journey of feeling fully—embracing the fire, the rage,the shame,  the gifts,  the joy, the ecstasy, and everything in between. In the process of age, I’ve had to face my many masks of dissonance and history of trauma, which was wrapped up in denial and avoidance. I was abused throughout my childhood and for years, my body operated on survival mode. I then unconsciously became my worst abuser.  I numbed myself, avoided my sensations, and fundamentally disconnected from my own pleasure.

The experience of abuse shaped a deep subjective,  societal condition of oppression and suppression within my body/mind expression, and it took conscious attention to recognise and address the shadows and potential gifts that lay within the skin. These tendencies had once served my body during traumatic times, helping me to survive. However, they no longer served my system in the pursuit of living a full, vibrant, soulful  life. The recognition of my addiction to fear in all its forms, constructed walls or weights of limitation.  This required immense courage to confront these walls I had unconsciously built in the skinsuit of conditioning—a limitation from the fabulous force of  feminine energy. I had to unlearn and relearn. I had to learn how to receive without expectation, and how to give unconditionally. For years, I had fortified myself with mechanisms that protected me, but ultimately hinder my growth. These survival reflexes needed to be cracked open, unlearned, so that I could expand and truly experience life in all its richness, colours and flavours……. I recognise these patterns are not exclusive to the abused, they lay deeply in the collective consciousness in which we all marinate, this imbalance shows itself in dis-ease and dysfunction for all masculine and feminine expressions.

What has self pleasure to do with it?

As I’ve worked through the somatic layers of trauma and condition while inviting the gift of process, I’ve uncovered new pathways of intimacy with myself. I’ve learned that self-pleasure is not just about physical satisfaction—it’s about reclaiming joy, vitality, and life force. When we activate self-pleasure with intention, we cultivate powerful biochemical shifts that nourish our bodies, heal our wounds, and restore our vibrancy. We become our own chemists, creating the medicine our systems need. No matter what stage of life we are in, on the woman's pathway, calibration of harmonics in the system, allows for the balance of hormones and biochemical patterns to optimise its innate intelligence. Getting connected opens the door.

For many of us, self-pleasure comes with a history of shame. We’re taught that it’s wrong, dirty, or indulgent. But what if we saw it for what it truly is—a natural, healthy expression of learning about our creative energy? When we embrace our sexual energy as women, we tap into a well of longevity, creativity, magnetism, and wellness. This pool and portal has the most transformative effects on the body…….This energy is infinite—and the cool thing is, it only grows the more we engage with it.

In my own life, exploring the intimacy of my whole self has been supported by the act of exploring pleasure, presence and play. I’ve had to break free from the patterns of dissociation that once ruled my bedroom and my life. By reconnecting with the sensations in my body—particularly in my vagina—I’ve become more sensitive, more alive, and more aware in every area of my life. I’ve learned that the masks I wore in the world were a reflection of the disconnection I felt within myself. As I re-sensitised to my body, I re-sensitised to life.

In this pathway of  self-discovery, one of the habits of history I had to confront, was the suboptimal automated patterns of thrusting and performance I had adopted in the sexual arena.The distorted understanding on what sex should look like, comes from many places, beliefs childhood, media, movies and embedded cultural patterns in the consciousness of the collective.  These patterns supported a numbing effect in the vaginal wall, cutting me off from the fullness of sensations and intimacy that were possible. Becoming sensitive to the subtlety of these sensations required a process of unlearning and learning to fire and wire,  not just my attention, but also the electrical currents of life force within my body in awareness. I saw how my reflexes that worked when I was young were still in operation, my distaste of my body was still playing out, my body was like a well oiled machine of automated responses that no longer served its growth. The exploration for something new became  an intentional practice of being present to these sensations, facing fears, feeling fully and allowing more of life to be felt and experienced.

The more awareness I brought to the subtle regions of the vaginal canal, the more sensitive I became to the life force that was awakening throughout my whole body. Old clusters of cortisol and adrenaline released in the process of allowing energy to move through the body untethered. No judgement, no holding on, just allowance and receivership. This process not only heightened physical sensations, but also unlocked gifts and insights, awakening a deeper connection to wholeSELF in life.  I came to recognise that the numbing actions I had previously relied on were not supportive of the full, ecstatic experience of being alive in my whole skin. Through this sensitivity, a new level of awareness emerged. There is literally an opening of the womb, the mind and heart, a coherence of expression that cultivates more life force   Allowing for a richer, more vibrant, and intimate connection to both myself and the world around me.

How does shame affect our ability to receive?

A vessel that operates under the weight of shame cannot fully experience joy. Shame’s somatic embodiment closes the beauty of all lifes’ qualities. Shame shuts all functions of psychological, emotional and physical growth down. Our mind cannot be open to new mechanics or information and that shutdown acts like a numbing agent. When we learn to lean into the shame sensations, a portal of awareness can open the body up. The momentum of its energy acts like a flush through the system, when felt, exposing the gift of process. We also have the capacity to support the shift of shame by consciously cultivating joy. Self-pleasure is one powerful pathway to do this. When we give ourselves permission to experience pleasure, we activate the chemistry of joy in our bodies, the energy of ecstasy acts like a high pressure cleaner, washing away and purifying debris that was once embedded in the skin. This byproduct of pleasure has profound ripple effects on our immune system, health, relationships, and the world around us.

This journey of self-love and self-care is not just about the individual—it’s about the collective. We live in a world that has oppressed and shamed the sexual, the ecstatic, and the aged. To shift this dynamic, we can take responsibility for ourselves, creating the sovereignty and self governance necessary to ripple these new patterns within the ecosystem of our relative life. Choosing to embrace radical self-love as a pathway to healing, health and happiness, cultivates a reverberation in the field in which we live, effecting the consciousness of the society at large. Who wouldn’t want more love in the world.?

This is a journey of falling in love with the whole self—the good, the bad, the light, the dark. When we stop rejecting parts of ourselves, we allow our full expression to emerge. By embracing the erotic energy within our bodies, we tap into a portal of dynamic, vibrant life force. We reclaim our power, not just as sensitive beings, but as creators, healers, and leaders. Exposing our unique gifts in the world of creation. 

This courageous attention is something I believe would benefit us all, no matter what age you are. It is where we become aware where we are operating on autopilot and where we can become more sensitive to the presence of life itself. This is where we choose to let go of limiting reflexes. Can it be challenging? Does it take effort? Can it be uncomfortable? Yes yes and yes. Is it worth it? Is it liberating? Does it juice up your life in more ways than you could imagine? Yes yes yes. We all carry survival tendencies, often unconscious, and to shift from merely surviving to thriving, it requires learning to look at the shadows of our personas, lean into our gifts and dance with the electricity of life at this moment . Presence to the juices of life isn’t just a state of mind—it’s a state of being, where we can feel, touch, and embody the friggin awesomeness of being alive in this moment rather than simply existing in it. The act of self-pleasure  is an act of radical self-love allowing walls that once served us to dismantle and crumble. In exploring intimacy with ourselves, we uncover the potential for a more ecstatic, alive, and connected existence. In my view, this is our birthright.

This is an invitation to be curious about your body, your wildness, your own life force, and to give yourself the space to explore what truly lives within you. In doing so, you may crack open your experience in freedom, joy, and vitality that have been waiting for you all along. Let the wisdom of age awaken and bear its fruits of truly living in what has essentially been here all along. 

Dive in and Cultivate Your Ecstatic Life

• Become aware of your body. Engage in practices that ground you in your skin and awaken your senses. Feel, feel and feel again.

• Do yin yoga—the art of receiving and allowing. Yin yoga encourages a softening of the body, engagement of breath, releasing tension and welcoming a deep, somatic process of allowance.

• Dance, dance, and dance again. Move your body with joy and abandon self criticism and judgement. Dance is a pathway to liberation and release, a way to shake off old energies and invite in the new in form.

• Fuel your life with joyful experiences. Surround yourself with what brings you joy and beauty, whether it’s music, art, movement, or time spent with loved ones. If you don't know what that is. Small steps of stepping into that which makes you smile can guide your pathway of inspired action. 

• Get amongst the water. Water is fluid and deeply connected to emotion. Let it move, morph, cleanse, and clarify your body and soul.

• Do inner child and mirror work. These practices help you reconnect with parts of yourself that need nurturing, forgiveness, and love. Learn what it means to lean into your shadow - this is a doorway to shine. 

• Masturbate and practice presence. When self-pleasuring, bring your full awareness to the experience. Tune in to the sensations and be fully present, cultivating a deeper relationship with your body. Become curious about being soft and sensual to the vaginal wall, explore the clitoris with awareness and breath, practice saying ‘yes’ to yourself. When you give yourself excuses if you don't have enough time etc. Give yourself a smile and do it anyway. 

• When you are in the bedroom with a partner, notice when you slip into autopilot. Invite a new kind of dance—one that requires presence, curiosity, and intentional touch. Get curious and exploitative about the other and yourself. 

• Watch the words you say to yourself. Be mindful of your internal dialogue. Notice any negative self-talk and challenge it with compassion, love and understanding. Build your affirmation list and feel it as though it’s true. 

• Recognise your darker self-talk. Write it down. Sit with it. Instead of pushing these thoughts away, feel and ask what it wants from you, begin to fall in love with these parts of yourself—they are often the portals of your gifts to experience more of life..

• Laugh, laugh, and laugh again. Laughter is medicine. Allow yourself to laugh freely and often, even at yourself. Celebrate yourself, play with the practice of laughing for no reason. Feel your body shift.

• Do your inner work. Connect with your emotions, especially the ones that are raw—rage, wildness, grief. We have suppressed so much of ourselves, especially the emotions society deems unacceptable. Create environments where you can safely explore and express all that you feel—this invites more depth and arousal into your life. Create a safe space where you can express and release them. Whether it's through movement, breathwork, or primal screams, allow yourself to feel fully. 

• Take on a conscious breath practice: There are many techniques that support release and allow for whole body/mind awareness. These techniques are powerful and support the central nervous system reboot, rewire and recalibrate. Inviting new ways of playing in the world

By leaning into these practices, you cultivate a deeper love for yourself, one that nourishes your body, mind, and spirit. This is the foundation of living an ecstatic, joyful, and embodied life.

Awakening Through the Shadows: The Feminine Power to Transmute Violence

The 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence is a clarion call for global awareness and transformation. It places the issue of violence against women on the world stage, yet it also compels us to confront the painful truth: despite decades of activism, violence persists. This enduring reality challenges us to explore not just systemic change but also the deeply personal, internal processes required to dismantle the roots of violence.

As a woman who has walked the harrowing path of childhood sexual abuse and rape, I recognise the profound work necessary to transmute violence—both within and in the world. The process begins in the shadows: the shadows of memory, pain, and inherited narratives that keep us in cycles of survival. To lean into these shadows is to reclaim a forgotten power, a voice buried beneath the weight of shame, rage, and fear. This voice, once awakened, holds the key to personal and collective liberation.

When we live in a body conditioned by trauma, survival becomes second nature. We deny, avoid, and shut down as a means of coping. For years, I operated from this space, unconsciously replaying the echoes of my wounded inner child—the girl who was scared, silenced, and intimidated. Yet there came a moment, a breaking point, when the accumulation of suppressed rage, guilt, and shame could no longer be contained. In that implosion, a portal opened—a pathway to liberation.

Reclaiming the Whole Self

True freedom, I have learned, requires the integration of the whole self: the physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual. Too often, we fragment ourselves, rejecting one aspect in favour of another. We deny our spiritual nature in favor of logic, or we suppress our physical needs while over-identifying with emotional pain. Yet healing demands inclusion. To transmute the energy of violence into strength, we must welcome every part of ourselves to the table.

This process calls for courage—a word whose etymology is rooted in cor, the Latin word for heart. It takes heart to face the wounded child within and invite her into a new narrative. It takes heart to transform rage into fuel, fear into wisdom, and pain into power. The divine feminine, in her fullest expression, embodies this alchemy. She is both wild and wise, chaotic and calm. She does not reject the rage born of injustice but channels it into the fire of transformation. Through her, the intimidated becomes the empowered, and the silenced becomes the sovereign.

The Feminine as a Force for Global Change

As women, our internal healing ripples outward. When we transmute our personal pain, we contribute to the disintegration of violence on a larger scale. This is the power of the feminine: to transform the imbalances we see in the world by first addressing them within ourselves. The qualities of the divine feminine—intuition, compassion, creativity, and fierce love—are not just tools for personal healing but also blueprints for collective liberation.

The United Nations' agenda for the 16 Days of Activism reminds us of the importance of systemic action. Yet systemic change is only sustainable when paired with individual transformation. The world needs women who are willing to dive into the depths of their pain, transmute it, and emerge as forces of nature—aligned, authentic, and liberated.

From Survival to Sovereignty

The journey from survival to sovereignty is not linear, nor is it easy. It requires us to confront our shadows, embrace our complexities, and honor our divine essence. But it is through this journey that we access our true power. When we align our spiritual, physical, and emotional selves, we become unstoppable forces for change—not just for ourselves but for the world.

The feminine is rising. She is no longer content to be silenced, intimidated, or fragmented. She is calling for wholeness, for integration, for liberation. And as she rises, she transforms violence into peace, pain into purpose, and imbalance into harmony.

Through our stories, through our courage, and through our unwavering commitment to healing, we embody the change we wish to see. This is the essence of activism—not just fighting against violence but creating a world where its seeds no longer find fertile ground.

#divine feminine

Mental health week

I had the honour of collaborating with @ World Federation for World Peace Mental Health Awareness Week. A special thank you to the visionaries behind this presentation, @Satomi and @Sam. The organisation is remarkable for fostering connection and promoting good in the world, elevating women’s superpowers to lead together, guided by love, action, and connection. Their aim is to transform collective challenges into a more coherent and thriving organism.

We gathered to connect, and I had the privilege of sharing a glimpse through my personal lens—the importance of enhancing sovereignty and self-governance. Mental health has been a significant theme throughout my life, especially as I experienced our beautiful mother being swept into the dis-ease of bipolar disorder. The impact of the experience touched not only her life but all of those within its collective family system, bringing forth the often chaotic expressions of this condition. Our family’s journey through this has awakened many perspectives, with one profound realisation emerging: true service to the world begins with self-love, self-care, and self-governance. 

A vital part of awareness is that one of the strengths of being a woman is our innate capacity to nurture and nourish as a natural reflex, including ourselves is often where the condition has become imbalanced. Women as a collective, in imbalance, are great givers, but not necessarily good at receiving. I think the airlines have it right with the life mask on our own face first. Here we want to recognise  that unless we are serving from a place of overflow, we contribute to collective dissonance and dysfunction. When we embrace responsibility of wellbeing for our lives, we reclaim our harmonic superpowers and can offer our overflow to the world we live in. This transformation allows us to move beyond narratives that diminish and lean into elevation of our more balanced, coherent, natural state of a thriving organism. Allowing for mental, physical and psychological wellness to be the ripple.

 This powerful space of self-responsibility ignites coherence, connection, and personal gifts, offering us the most potent position of influence.

Key Takeaways:

We are born into the most sophisticated instrument—the body. Learning how to use it elevates self-governance and awakens our innate intelligence.

Together, we explored:

• Self-love and self-care as medicine for all forms of dis-ease, depression, and destruction. These practices nourish our inner wellness garden, creating the biochemistry of well-being, harmony, and acting as potent immunity boosters.

• Rituals, meditation, and breathwork as powerful tools for tuning into ourselves and regulating the central nervous system. These practices shift us from feeling powerless to empowered, from anxiousness to presence, and allow the intelligence of the body to do what it was born to do: heal, process, receive, and enjoy life.

• The importance of movement, which reminds us that our bodies hold onto past patterns. Moving the body releases these old imprints, making space for present awareness, processing, regeneration, and agility. We are born to move and thrive.

• Body/mind/emotion mastery, which enables us to take the driver’s seat. Instead of being swept away by our emotions, we can use them as momentum for our dreams and actions. By recognising which patterns serve us and which do not, we can channel our energy in ways that benefit ourselves and the collective—this is a true superpower.

• Connection to deeper listening through body awareness, allowing intuition and innovation to rise. With a little attention to the central nervous system and the feeling body, we can regulate our responses and master the most sophisticated organism we possess.

Sunrise ritual

There’s nothing quite like a little internal tune-up with the sun as your guide! Imagine soaking in pure life force, giving your cells a boost, and waking up every part of you. That’s the magic of conscious attention—moving from theory to embodiment. This practice to be realised required us to play in it., it's a hands-on practice for optimal living..

Start your day by stepping outside as the sun rises. Stand or sit comfortably, facing the sun, and have your eyes slightly open, looking at the sun, with a soft gaze. Begin to breathe deeply, inhaling the morning light with each breath. As you do, visualise the warmth and energy of the sun seeping into your skin, reaching every cell, and sparking a little internal dance. As you ingest, move your attention to the centre of your brain and ingest some more.

Spend about 20 minutes in this practice, focusing on the sun's energy spinning away the calcification of your pineal gland, clearing the path for clarity and insight. You’ll start to feel the light working its way through your body, unlocking the potential within your glands and other internal processes.

““Keep your face always toward the sunshine—and shadows will fall behind you.”
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— Walt Whitman

Though there are fascinating biochemical and neuro-physical shifts happening within you at this point, shifting, rewiring and opening, the details of its technology become your subjective and unique experience.  All of the practices and processes shared are about getting your skin in the game and allowing your evidence to rise in your experience by feeling the change, experiencing the transformation as your consciousness expands. Ready to play in the realm of optimal health? Let’s celebrate the light within, one sunrise at a time and let me know how you go with practice.

#SunriseRitual

#PinealGlandHealth

#MeditationPractice

#MindBodySpirit

#CellularOptimisation

#MorningRoutine

#ConsciousLiving

#WellnessJourney

Introduction: Unleashing Life Force

In the rich tapestry of tantric yogic perspective, the concept of life force, known as prana or chi, weaves through the essence of existence itself. It is the subtle energy that animates all living beings, flowing through every cell, breath, and thought. This vital force isn't just a philosophical abstraction but a tangible essence that sustains and rejuvenates us at every moment.

What is Life Force?

Life force, in the tantric yogic terms, is the cosmic energy that pervades the universe and manifests within each individual as the essence of vitality. Known as prana in yoga or chi in traditional Chinese medicine, it is the subtle yet potent force responsible for our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. This energy isn't confined to the body alone but extends beyond, connecting us intimately with our environment and the universe at large.

The Role of Life Force

Within this framework, life force serves as the energetic foundation upon which all life rises through. Life force attention supports health, happiness, and spiritual growth to unfold. It nourishes our organs, sustains our mental clarity, and empowers our emotional integration. Beyond the physical realm, it fuels our creativity, deepens our spiritual practices, and enhances our overall sense of interconnectedness with all life in the  cosmos.

Why Increase Your Life Force?

Increasing your life force isn't merely about boosting energy levels—it's about optimising your entire being for a vibrant and fulfilling existence. By enhancing prana or chi, you amplify your capacity to experience life fully through the five senses and more. This heightened vitality supports longevity, elevates immunity, enhances spiritual capacity, and fosters a profound sense of inner harmony and coherence.

Here is an exploration of practical and playful ways to elevate your life force. From grounding techniques to creative expression, each key invites you to embrace the flow of prana, enriching your journey towards a more vibrant and luminous life.

Join us as we embark on a journey to unlock the secrets of life force, igniting the spark of vitality that resides within each of us. Let's dive deep into practices that nurture, awaken, and celebrate the boundless energy of existence itself.

8 keys to elevating the body's life force from a yogic tantric perspective:

1. Grounding Feet in the Earth: Imagine your feet as the roots of a tree, connecting deep into the earth. This grounds you, stabilises your energy, and helps you tap into the earth's abundant life force.

2. Move Your Body: Shake it, shimmy it! Movement stirs up your glands and lymphatic system, keeping energy flowing and vibrant. Dance like nobody's watching!

3. Fresh Food Feeds Life Force: Skip the processed stuff. Fresh, wholesome foods are packed with vitality. Think juicy fruits, crisp veggies, and whole grains—less processing means more life force for your cells to dance with!

4. Breathwork & Pranayama: Inhale deeply, exhale fully. Conscious breathing floods your body with oxygen, igniting your inner fire just like that first breath at birth. Breathe in life force, exhale any stress.

5. Laugh and Love: Chuckle, giggle, snort—let joy ripple through you! Love generously. These high vibes flood your system with oxytocin, serotonin, and immune-boosting goodness. It's like a spa day for your soul!

6. Hydrate Like You Mean It: Sip, gulp, hydrate! Your body is a water wonderland—keep it flowing, supporting your liver and nervous system. Water cleanses, clarifies, and revitalises.

7. Sleep Deeply, Dream Wildly: Dreamland is where magic happens. Deep sleep rejuvenates your body and mind, helping you recharge your life force batteries. Embrace your dreams, they're your subconscious playground!

8. Create Anything, Unleash Your Genius: You're a creative powerhouse! Whether it's art, music, writing, or gardening—let your inner genius play. Creation sparks life force like fireworks in the night sky.

Don't be deceived by the apparent simplicity of these practices; each one holds profound depth and transformative potential. Take grounding your feet in the earth, for instance—it’s not just about physical stability but also about connecting with the earth's primal energy, fostering a sense of rootedness that extends beyond the physical realm. Similarly, engaging in breathwork and pranayama isn't merely about inhaling and exhaling; it's about harmonising your life force, awakening dormant energies, and achieving mental clarity. The benefits of these practices ripple far beyond their immediate effects, influencing everything from improved digestion and enhanced immune function to heightened creativity and spiritual growth. It is through regular, dedicated practice that these subtle yet powerful bioproducts reveal themselves, guiding practitioners towards a deeper understanding of themselves and their connection to the universe.

Remember, life force isn't just about existing—it's about thriving, pulsating, and radiating your unique sparkle in this cosmic dance we call life. So, ground yourself, move joyously, eat vibrantly, breathe deeply, laugh often, hydrate lovingly, sleep peacefully, and create passionately. Embrace these keys, and watch your life force soar

"Breaking Through: Self-Discovery and Consciousness Unveiled"

Understanding Limiting Beliefs and Their Impact

“There is nothing more confining than the prison we don’t know we are in. ”

— Shakespeare

This statement strikes at the core of insight: Many of us live within invisible walls constructed by our limiting beliefs that have sung the song of relative truth for a long time.

These unseen barriers might tell us we're not good enough, don’t have enough, there isn’t enough, setting ceilings on our behaviours and potential, whether financially, professionally, or personally. They whisper that we lack the innate superpowers to achieve, be or lean into new or do something that is outside what we call our norm, keeping us confined in a small, familiar space.

But here's a more fundamental truth that invites these walls to dissolve: these walls of delusion can fall and shift. By recognising and challenging our norm/limiting beliefs, we can begin to see beyond the confines of our unconscious constraints. When we do, we open the door to new possibilities, greater actions, and a life lived in its possibilities of potential and expansion. Rather than a repetition of yesterday.

Imagine breaking free from the notion that you’re not enough or lack. Picture yourself shattering the financial ceilings you’ve imposed on yourself. Visualise tapping into hidden strengths and capabilities. The walls that once seemed unbreakable can crumble, allowing you to step into a world where life looks and feels very different to the patterns of our constructs..

So, let's start by questioning the beliefs that confine us. Let’s challenge the narratives that tell us what we can and cannot do. As we do, as we feel and as we integrate the avoidance and disconnected sensations that have hummed our history, we lean into something new, spontaneous and fresh. An exploration of knowing the difference, once experienced, the tangible and release of the walls of mind happens. 

Techniques for Dissolving Unconscious Patterns

When you encounter a situation, feeling, or repeated pattern in life that you no longer wish to experience, the first step is to acknowledge the reality of what you're feeling.

Next, ask yourself a crucial question: "What would I have to believe to be true for me to feel this way or for this situation to keep happening?"

This question helps uncover the underlying belief that's driving the pattern. Once you identify this belief, you bring it into your conscious awareness. Simply observing this belief often starts the process of dissolution. If the pattern persists, it may indicate that you haven't yet reached the core belief. Keep exploring.

Throughout this process, remember to be compassionate with yourself. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise as you explore these beliefs. Emotional shifts can be powerful catalysts in transforming these ingrained beliefs and tendencies. Feeling the body in the experience is where you put the key in the hole, and open up.

By engaging in this self-inquiry and emotional processing, you can gradually unravel and release unconscious patterns, paving the way for personal growth and change.

The Alchemy of Self: Transforming Internal Energetics for Personal Growth

Alchemy is often associated with the transformation of base metals into gold, but there is a deeper, more profound form of alchemy that takes place within our own internal system. This type of alchemy involves transmuting our internal energetics and can lead to significant personal growth and transformation.

Understanding Alchemy within the Central Nervous System

Alchemising energetics happens within our central nervous system. This happens both consciously and unconsciously.  Becoming aware of how we react to life opens pathways to modify and play with outdated energetics that once limited us. Many unconscious reactions operate automatically. To shift them, it requires awareness or becoming conscious of those underlying beliefs and patterns of reality.

Awareness and Consciousness

To know your beliefs, listen to the words you say, observe the life you experience, and pay attention to how you feel. These are all reflections of your internal energetics. By becoming your own alchemist and tuning into the feedback from your central nervous system, you can transmute these energetics and shift your beliefs quickly. Feeling is essential in this process: "I feel, I heal, I transmute." Feeling becomes a byproduct of shifting energetic reactions and serves as a quick pathway to change.

Practical Steps to Internal Alchemy

1. Be Present to Your Body: Ground yourself in the present moment. This involves being aware of your body and its sensations.

2. Feel Your Bodily Sensations: Pay close attention to how your body feels. This might include noticing areas of tension, discomfort, or other sensations.

3. Breathe and Breathe Again: Deep, mindful breathing helps to calm the nervous system and brings more awareness to your current state, while gaining access to the mass of energetic internal happenings so you can consciously do something with them.

4. Direct Your Attention: Focus your attention on the areas of your life you would like to change. This conscious direction of your focus is where the alchemical process begins.

Exploring Internal Energetics

Looking at this  image attached represents the patterns of internal energetics within our body/mind organism. This image can help you explore patterns within the skin and what they are made up of and direct those patterns that no longer serve you into new desires or qualities of change. By becoming present with your body, feeling your sensations, and consciously breathing, you create a space where you can direct your attention and life force towards transformation.

In essence, becoming aware of your reactions and beliefs, feeling deeply into your sensations, and consciously choosing where to direct your attention allows you to become an alchemist of your own life. This internal process of alchemy leads to profound personal transformation and the realisation of your highest potential.

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🌿 Trigger Joy, Trigger Healing, Trigger love🌿

This photo popped up in my memories today, and wow, what a moment! Swinging in Bali, feeling absolute freedom and pure love wash over me. It was a moment that triggers generosity, connection, love, beauty and the coolness of playfulness, just by looking at the picture. It was a moment that left a lasting mark on my heart. experience that left a lasting mark on my heart.

Joy isn’t just a feeling; it’s biochemistry at work, fueling our cells to heal, regenerate, and elevate. Who wouldn’t say yes to that? I’m soaking in that joy right now, marinating in its wonderful effects. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Our minds often replay moments from our history, sometimes focusing on times of dis-ease. But I've found that the more I prompt my mind to recall joyful moments, the more it delivers. This practice not only enhances our inner biochemistry but also enriches how we see, feel, and play in the world.

• Ways in which we can cultivate and infuse the feedback of joy to be a pattern rich in the embodiment is.

  • Bring out your album of great vibes and trigger the feels.

  • Enliven the practice of appreciation. Look at what you do, have or have had and feel the feels. Who was involved and how did they support you in your now. Good, bad and ugly. Dive into the appreciation station.

  • Bring on your child like spirit. Remember what it feels like to truly play, just for playing sake.

  • Have fun, smile and laugh at many things.

Here’s to triggering more joy and living life in this moment. 🌟💖

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Freedom - the inner child chat

In my view, our true nature embodies qualities like limitlessness, love, and freedom. What may seem like a delusion to some, an inspiration to others, or simply an altruistic concept, reveals its true essence through experience. In guiding with such attention, I cannot underestimate the value of nurturing and nourishing the inner child within us. Another way to view this is by developing self-love and self-care practices that support the expression of our true nature.

The mask that once protected us in our personal or ancestral history served its purpose at the time, but it no longer supports our exploration of freedom and liberated expression as adults. From this perspective, taking practical steps to nourish our inner perception, as one would a child, is powerful. These actions help integrate the energetic clusters within us, fulfilling elements of our psyche and energetic sphere.

As we shift our neural and physical reflexes to open new pathways, we allow more life force to flow, fostering a more liberated expression of our true selves.

7 ways to

1. Play and Get Creative:

• Have Fun: Dive back into activities you loved as a kid—drawing, painting, playing games, or building with LEGO. Playtime is like a time machine back to joy!

• Unleash Creativity: Write goofy stories, make art, or pick up an instrument. Let your imagination run wild without worrying about being perfect.

2. Be Your Own Best Friend:

• Talk Nice to Yourself: Treat yourself with the kindness you'd show a little kid. Feel all the feels without judging yourself.

• Pamper Yourself: Set up self-care rituals that make you feel awesome. Think warm baths, favourite snacks (in moderation), or a chill day in nature.

3. Get Back to Nature:

• Enjoy the Outdoors: Nature is like a giant reset button. Go for walks, hike, picnic, or just lie on the grass and watch the clouds go by.

• Observe and Wonder: Try bird-watching or gardening. These activities help you slow down and see the world through curious, childlike eyes.

4. Stay Curious and Learn:

• Try New Things: Dive into new hobbies or interests without the pressure to be great at them. Whether it’s a new language, sport, or skill, approach it with wide-eyed wonder.

• Ask Questions: Keep your sense of wonder alive. Read, take workshops, or just be curious about the world around you.

5. Find Joy and Laugh:

• Laugh a Lot: Watch funny movies, read humorous books, or hang out with people who make you giggle. Laugh at your thoughts. Laughter is like a big hug for your soul.

• Celebrate Little Wins: Take a moment to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Treat yourself or do a happy dance. Small wins can bring big joy.

6. Meditate. Different styles of meditation are specific to the purpose. Each serving different needs and have very different activations within the experience.

• 1. Developing a meditation practice, is an internal magic potion, the observer meditation, shows us our ability to witness and let go. This can become a superpower in nourishing and nurturing tendencies we want to flick or integrate. 

• 2. Inner child meditation: In your meditation, imagine yourself as a child, How would you talk to a child that age, develop a relationship with her, him or they. Give them the tone of encouragement, and shower them with loving words. Tell them they’re safe, loved, and perfect just as they are.

7. Give Your Inner Child Some TLC:

• Quick Comfort: When you’re feeling down, close your eyes and imagine your inner child. Offer them comforting words and remind them they’re loved, safe and they are pretty darn awesome. The perfect imperfect.

• Check-In Regularly: Make it a habit to ask your inner child what they need. Maybe it’s a nap, some playtime, or just a bit of reassurance.

Have fun exploring.

Lean in, breath in

There is a profound power inherent in acknowledging the dissonance that rises in the body when something uncomfortable hits us. Often veiled by avoidance, denial, retaliation, blame, and resistance, yet unmistakable, we're prompted to consider: What if we saw the veiled trepidation not as an obstacle, but as an invitation?

What if, instead of recoiling from fear, we leaned into it? What if we allowed ourselves to breathe in, to witness, to truly see and feel the momentum of the emotions/energy coursing through us? In doing so, we open ourselves to a transformative process—one where fear becomes a catalyst for the body/mind's growth.

By embracing the dissonance experienced in the skin, with acceptance, we create space for it to transmute into something different, shifting the neurophysical responses of its past to something new. We invite the possibility that arises from that moment of acknowledgment, paving the way for insight and personal evolution. In turn, supporting the ever evolving environment to do the same.

So, I invite reflection. Where and when is the dissonance in your skin, in a conversation, a challenge, or the evocation of new experiences? How can we harness the energy of the subtle niggle as a force for positive change in our lives and careers? Where and when have you seen the power of leaning in as a transformative process? Embrace Fear

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Women’s circle - elevating the feminine

What a crackin circle of goodness. It was awesome to play. Nothing hums to me more than facilitating and harnessing awareness in the multi faceted expression of energetics. A women's circle is an incredible pla

Women's circles offer a sacred space where women can delve into their inner worlds of feminine energetics—a place to connect to the gift of femininity, to move, reshape, and rewire the internal canvas using dynamic and creative feminine energies.

In ancient cultures, women gathering was a norm, a practice deeply rooted in the empowerment and support of fellow women, in turn, benefiting all. Instead of succumbing to patterns of competition, these circles provide a platform for nurturing, collaboration, and growth, free from toxic expressions like judgement, jealousy, and manipulation. Through regular practice and process, these circles become initiators for cultivating more of the divine feminine in the body, harmonising the once subjective imbalance of its oppression and leading to greater liberation, value, and self-expression. 

By creating a safe container for vulnerability, open expression, and support without the need to fix, women can tap into their innate qualities of heart, nurturing collaboration, receivership, support, and love, fostering an elevation of each other. When the vessel of independent balance awakens, it becomes an environment in which all beings bathe, offering the influence of the unique blueprint of feminine and masculine balance to be seen collectively. This becomes the feminine's superpower in influencing the collective expression of a non-gender-specific balance of masculine and feminine, supporting balanced expression in the template of all humans. 

These processes provide an opportunity to recognise the power of divine feminine energies and the difference in awareness they bring. When harmonising and movement happens from the imbalanced tendencies that keep a person or organisation stuck, we elevate a human's capacity to operate in their creative and inspired natural genius, through balance. Something which many organisations or institutions are craving.Such awareness encourages, values, and harnesses their superpowers—something worthy of exploration for all. 

It is to be noted, the feminine and masculine energies are present in all life. Each holding a unique composition. When we explore the inner dimensions of experience, awareness can rise of the divine masculine and divine feminine in tangible awareness. These expressions hold an energetic frequency which have the intelligence to harmonise unique to the vessel in which it moves. It is not one that is better or worse, or more powerful or less than, but a unique composition to express in its qualities of optimum force. The gift of being birthed in the vessel of the human apparatus is we can gain awareness of each of its qualities in experience.

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Level up or in

Embark on a journey through the realms of consciousness, where each level offers a new vista of reality waiting to be explored. Where do you find yourself on this spectrum? Does your perception shift as you navigate through life's varied experiences?

Consider your body and mind as a vessel, your "skin suit," through which you perceive and interact with the world. How does this vessel resonate with the reality you inhabit? And more importantly, how can you elevate this resonance to new scenes of perception?

The beauty of inhabiting this "skin suit" lies in the autonomy it grants us—the birth of subjective will erupts in the process. Within its confines, we hold the keys to unlocking doors, seizing opportunities, and shaping our collective reality for more elevated experiences.

As individuals we all have a short window of time in this skin suit, giving attention to the resonance in which it hums may just be the tweak necessary in seeing the world in a tune we are happy to listen to. 

So, fellow explorers, what will you do to level up your resonance and contribute to the tapestry of existence from the most powerful place of influence? Within.

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Elevating Consciousness

"The full spectrum of body/mind functioning vibrates at its collective frequency—the body/mind/spirit vessel, named YOU. This frequency acts as an antenna, attracting resonances at the same tone. The patterning of what we perceive is filtered through the mind's electrical currents, often traversing familiar pathways shaped by habit and past experiences forming beliefs, thus creating scenes we've encountered countless times before.

The information processed by our interpretive vessel is cultivated from various spectra of influence: history, experience, environment, and the multi-dimensional perspectives of time and space. This infusion shapes our collective awareness. Why is this knowledge valuable? Because despite seeming beyond our subjective control, the triumph lies in realising our influence on the vibratory patterning through which we express ourselves.

Fine-tuning your subjective vessel influences the field of consciousness in which it resides. Nourishing your experiences with moments that serve, in turn, nourishes the collective frequency, which then defines the vibratory field within which we all exist. Whatever it is you want to see in the world, it is time to hum to that tune. In all facets of your life.

1. What activities are you choosing today to tune your instrument?"

2. Where are you giving your attention?

3. How are you showing up in life that represents what and who you want to experience in the world?

4. Where in your life could you infuse more of the characteristics, feelings and alignment to your desires?

Your state is the one that ripples, choose your state to influence the trait.

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'Discover Worlds Within' by Marie Louise

The art of process

Our ability to nurture our life with intention and care allows for the fullest expression of our potential. Like tending to a garden, we sow the seeds of our aspirations, water them with dedication, and watch as they grow into the vibrant manifestations of our dreams.
Just as the environment shapes the growth of plants, our surroundings, experiences, and choices influence the trajectory of our lives. Yet, amidst this interplay, we retain agency—the power to sculpt our own narratives, to paint our own stories upon the canvas of existence.

Giving awareness to the art of process opens the dance between trust and action, between surrendering to the inherent wisdom of the blueprint while actively participating in its unfolding. As we embrace this dynamic balance, we discover the beauty of co-creation, of aligning our intentions with the natural rhythms of life.

In this journey of becoming, let us remember that every moment offers an opportunity to nourish our potential, to cultivate play, and to bloom into the fullest expression of ourselves. As we trust in the process and tend to our inner garden with love, awareness and attention, we pave the way for the blossoming of our truest nature.

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5 Reasons Tuning Into Joy is a Tonic for Wellness

In the pursuit of wellness, we often focus on physical health, diet, and exercise, but we may overlook the profound impact attention to Joy can have on our overall well-being. Joy isn't just a fleeting emotion; it's a state of being that can positively influence our mental, emotional, and physical health. We have the ability to cultivate the environment in which joy can thrive with attention.  Here are five compelling reasons why tuning into joy can be a powerful and potent tonic for wellness.

Boosts Immune System:

Research has shown that positive emotions, such as joy, can enhance the function of the immune system. When we experience joy, our bodies release neurotransmitters like dopamine and endorphins, which have been linked to strengthening the immune response. Regularly tapping into feelings of joy can help bolster our body's defenses against illness and promote overall health.

Reduces Stress and Anxiety:

Joy has a remarkable ability to counteract stress and anxiety. When we experience joy, our bodies naturally relax, and stress hormones like cortisol decrease. By intentionally cultivating moments of joy through activities we love or spending time with loved ones, we can create a buffer against the negative effects of stress, leading to greater emotional resilience and a calmer state of mind.

Enhances Mental Clarity and Creativity:

Joy has a way of clearing the mental fog and enhancing cognitive function. When we're joyful, our minds are more open, creative, and receptive to new ideas. This heightened mental clarity can lead to increased productivity, problem-solving abilities, and a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment in our daily lives.

Improves Relationships:

Joy is contagious, and when we radiate joy, it can positively impact the people around us, strengthening our relationships and social connections. Joyful interactions foster empathy, compassion, and understanding, creating a supportive environment where communication flows more easily, conflicts are resolved more peacefully, and bonds are deepened.

Promotes Overall Well-being:

Consciously choosing to give attention to things that make you joyful invigorates the pathways of joy in your brain to become the new automated response to life. In neuroscience, it's said that "neurons that fire together wire together." By consciously firing and wiring moments of joy, this neural feedback becomes the new norm. Conversely, feelings of the critic and judgment bias often create a deep reflex of toxic biochemistry and, if played long enough, can become heavy and depressing. Imagine the transformative effect of firing and wiring moments of joy into your neural pathways, creating a default state of positivity and resilience.

Cultivating our ability to attune and give  attention to the things that make us feel good is by far one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and the world around us.  It isn’t always easy to see the good around our world, but with a little awareness, it might be worth the effort. So, here is the invitation to give wellness a crack and let your experience of doing so raise new evidence that you are worthy of your own attention. Let's make joy a priority and embrace its transformative effects on our exploratory and open wellness journey.

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Evolve Yourself® with Marie Louise

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Marie Louise is a seasoned facilitator of wellbeing processes and activations, having positively influenced the lives of thousands of individuals across the globe. With a profound understanding of human nature and relationships, she has elevated countless individuals, enhancing their capacity to thrive.